So Sandy and I were close to breaking up over Christmas. We didn't, we are too in love and have a life and kids together. But we came close.
Why? Trust in a word. Sandy lied to me. Not once but three times. Each time she promised not to do it again. Each time it was harder for me to forgive and put my faith in her. The last time I almost kicked her out. I was angry, shouting and fuming. Only the fact that she was in the end honest with me saved the marriage. But under a huge amount of duress.
Why would a person in an open marriage lie, there is no need to! Well it's a lot more complex than that, in my next post I will try and explain.