Chez thumper Belle made the following post on her view of why she likes dominating him, and how it started. I found it very interesting, the way she focussed mainly on the dynamic and how she feels and not on the 'hotness'. This seemed to resonate with me, I sent it to sandy. This is her thoughts on it In her words as emailed to me
I wouldn't use the word hot to describe the submissiveness, but it is the power. That I can say 'do this...' and you will without question. It makes me feel like I have more equality in the relationship. Also it's lots of fun - it's entertaining to see your face when I ask you to do something - you are amused too.