Well im amazed and touched that some of you are still here and interested in an update...
A few weeks ago on thumpers blog I wrote
'A year or two of strict orgasm control did bring sandy and I together. It created strains also, but on balance was good for us. Now the flr dynamic is behind us and I come when i like. It’s a strange feeling and I feel a keen sense of loss. However I have no interest in going back to being orgasm controlled and the longer time passes the less I want to actually go back. I wonder if it’s a phase or if I’ve had the submissive ‘burned out’. I only see it as a game I would play occasionally.
Yet, i worry about the lack of the cement that was added to our marriage by her owning my sexuality.'
This remains true, although I dont feel the loss anymore. I believe that the sub really was burned out of me, my vanilla and dominant sides are much more to the fore these days. I fantasise about being submissive, but its only an occasional bedroom thing. It was harder being a sub, constantly being gnawed at being horny and not in as much control of my day, whereas now I can cum and relax, I generally feel more relaxed. The loss of the dynamic has not affected us, which is good. Sandy tells me I am a much more caring husband for having done this for three years, so obviously a fair chunk of it has stuck... No bad thing and probably why the change has not been bad for us.
Also, and lets not underestimate this, its mid winter, we are both very busy at work and tired, colds and flu have taken their toll. Come summer and higher sex drive things will hot up I am sure. I am also fairly sure we will go back to being sub and Mistress again someday, not soon, and I suspect for shorter periods, but we will. Its not like we have stopped being kinky, but we are both rather enjoying this unusual thing called vanilla together.
Sandy has broken up with her boyfriend. Partly she found that she connects better with me without him around, she is a one man woman emotionally. Sex with others is an occasionaly thing for her we think. But also because he was getting much harder work, more demanding. She has a relationship, family, kids, demands. She doesnt need more demands. Had he stayed an occasional fun friend and fuck she may well still be seeing him, she liked his company and enjoyed the sex a lot. After all his pressure (he wanted a lot more of her) she is glad to be out of it, though she has no regrets. For me it was fun, we explored a fantasy which we both enjoyed, she has rediscovered her breasts as a source of sexual pleasure (which has of course brought me benefits). So on balance fun while it lasted, and some small benefits to the relationship.
One final thing, I decided to get lasered after all, my cock, balls and arse are now permanently hair free and very smooth, as is Sandy's delicious pussy, which has just a landing strip to show me the way. Cuntilicious she calls it, and it is! Maybe I will show you a picture...
M
Monday, 28 February 2011
Sunday, 9 January 2011
a short update
Sorry everyone for the time since my last update. Everything is ok with Sandy and me, but there have been a few changes.
1 - Sandy and I went through a short patch of arguing nastily just before christmas. Bit of a relapse of our old patterns. It has passed now but play was quiet between us for a little while, partly because of that and partly because of course its a busy time for those of us with kids!
2 - I read thumpers update on turbulence which mirrored what Sandy and I were feeling. Perhaps we felt it a bit more deeply. I was feeling less subby, maybe tiredness, maybe the argument, but mainly because we have lived this lifestyle for a long time now and I think it was getting a bit tiring, like we needed a break and to reset ourselves. Sandy felt it too, hard to say which of us needed the break more but once we argued we stopped playing for a short while, then found that actually we were enjoying the break from d/s. I suspected this was coming for a couple of months before christmas but wasnt sure of myself.
3 - Sandy cuckolding me (specifically having vanilla sex with her boyfriend) got her back into penetrative sex and more traditional sex. Kind of got her enjoying it again. She realised she missed it and rather liked me taking a bit more control during sex occasionally.
So cut a long story we have done d/s a long time and need a break. Thats what we are doing. I am masturbating practically daily, we have mostly vanilla sex and i have fucked her quite a few times in the last month. Its been really rather cool and we have both enjoyed it. Sandy did say that my stint as her sub has made me a more gentle and easygoing husband. I dont know how long it will last, a month, a year? There is no sign yet of either of us tiring of it. I am fairly sure we will go back to d/s sometime but I have no idea at all when.
As for Sandy's boyfriend and cuckolding...? She is still kind of seeing him but once a week was proving too much, she didnt have enough time and energy to do that, see enough of her family, see her friends and do her hobbies. They havent seen each other for about three weeks. It may be that she calls it off soon, or perhaps it just settles down to friends with benefits. Only time will tell. She enjoyed it and apart from the pressure to see more of him its been good fun.
In the meantime updates to this blog may be very much less frequent, as there isnt so much to blog about :) Now and then Im sure I will pop up!
M
1 - Sandy and I went through a short patch of arguing nastily just before christmas. Bit of a relapse of our old patterns. It has passed now but play was quiet between us for a little while, partly because of that and partly because of course its a busy time for those of us with kids!
2 - I read thumpers update on turbulence which mirrored what Sandy and I were feeling. Perhaps we felt it a bit more deeply. I was feeling less subby, maybe tiredness, maybe the argument, but mainly because we have lived this lifestyle for a long time now and I think it was getting a bit tiring, like we needed a break and to reset ourselves. Sandy felt it too, hard to say which of us needed the break more but once we argued we stopped playing for a short while, then found that actually we were enjoying the break from d/s. I suspected this was coming for a couple of months before christmas but wasnt sure of myself.
3 - Sandy cuckolding me (specifically having vanilla sex with her boyfriend) got her back into penetrative sex and more traditional sex. Kind of got her enjoying it again. She realised she missed it and rather liked me taking a bit more control during sex occasionally.
So cut a long story we have done d/s a long time and need a break. Thats what we are doing. I am masturbating practically daily, we have mostly vanilla sex and i have fucked her quite a few times in the last month. Its been really rather cool and we have both enjoyed it. Sandy did say that my stint as her sub has made me a more gentle and easygoing husband. I dont know how long it will last, a month, a year? There is no sign yet of either of us tiring of it. I am fairly sure we will go back to d/s sometime but I have no idea at all when.
As for Sandy's boyfriend and cuckolding...? She is still kind of seeing him but once a week was proving too much, she didnt have enough time and energy to do that, see enough of her family, see her friends and do her hobbies. They havent seen each other for about three weeks. It may be that she calls it off soon, or perhaps it just settles down to friends with benefits. Only time will tell. She enjoyed it and apart from the pressure to see more of him its been good fun.
In the meantime updates to this blog may be very much less frequent, as there isnt so much to blog about :) Now and then Im sure I will pop up!
M
Sunday, 28 November 2010
Chastity belted travelling
It turns out my lovely Sandy is very disappointed that my business trip to NY (where I am right now) came too soon for us to use the piercing and the pa5000 to keep me chaste. Much more disappointed than I expected. She has got more into controlling my cock recently than I realise.
In fact she said that once it works she will never want me to travel without being locked first.
AAAAhhhhhhhh!
In fact she said that once it works she will never want me to travel without being locked first.
AAAAhhhhhhhh!
Tuesday, 23 November 2010
Underwater Assfuck
A very different day yesterday.
Sandy and I have argued a bit recently. Too much work, too little time. After a big barney I was feeling distant and not looking forward to having sex that night, not feeling close. Given how little we see of each other mid week we knew we should make a big effort to spend time together but it was feeling pressured.
We had a shower together in the morning. In the shower she pushed me against the wall and kissed me hard, roughly pushing her finger into my arse. Which was fun, but stopped after a few minutes. A short while later I did the same to her and she reacted, threw her head back and started to whimper. I pushed her face against the shower wall and pretended to fuck her from behind, whispered, not seriously, that we had all the tools we need on hand for me to fuck her in the arse. In answer she pulled my cock between her legs and started pressing it against herself. It wasn't going to go in like that so I reached over, rubber plenty of cream on me and she pushed back against me, pressing hard and wiggling her luscious arse until with a pop I was in, cock ring still in place. What followed was a pretty rough fuck, I pushed in and out fast without much warm up, my free hand either pulling her head back hard by her hair, or pinching her nipples as hard as my slippery hand would allow. She was frigging herself desperately as I fucked her, obviously needing to cum badly. In the end I got there first by a slim margin, and she came a minute later while I continued to move inside her.
Her knees literally buckled afterward, she had to sit on the floor of the shower with the door open to get her breath back.
a good start to the day and certainly took the pressure off.
That night we got to bed and were planning to sleep. I told her about a conversation i had at a munch about Figging. She asked what that was and I described it, I then told her how it feels as the ginger warms then starts to bite. At first she was just interested and curious as to when I had tried it, but as I described the feeling her breathing began to speed up and she started to rub herself on me. It became very apparent that she liked the idea. I suggested a quick orgasm before sleep which she accepted funnily enough, only she wasn't in the mood for quick. I slid my finger in her arse and played with her, she begged me to put tiger balm on it. Great! Bend over the bed and get it, I told her, and as she bent over the edge of the bed, her head hanging down and her delectable butt in the air I continued to tease her arse and her clit. Took her ages to find the balm (can you guess why?) and she passed me back a pink large dildo at the same time. Slut!
It didn't take her long to cum, I had one hand ramming the dildo into her pussy hard, my finger coated liberally in tiger balm was simultaneously moving in and out of her arse which by now was deliciously burning hot. With my free hand I grabbed her hair hard in my fist, pulling her head back, stretching her neck, or pushing it back down over the edge of the bed. I wasn't gentle at either end, dildo arse or hair but she just pushed her hand between her legs, moaning almost non stop, then tipped over into a huge orgasm. She came while making guttural animal sounds, her hair pulled even harder and head pulled back, and as she came down the slow continuing movement of the dildo and finger brought her quite a few aftershocks.
Sandy and I have argued a bit recently. Too much work, too little time. After a big barney I was feeling distant and not looking forward to having sex that night, not feeling close. Given how little we see of each other mid week we knew we should make a big effort to spend time together but it was feeling pressured.
We had a shower together in the morning. In the shower she pushed me against the wall and kissed me hard, roughly pushing her finger into my arse. Which was fun, but stopped after a few minutes. A short while later I did the same to her and she reacted, threw her head back and started to whimper. I pushed her face against the shower wall and pretended to fuck her from behind, whispered, not seriously, that we had all the tools we need on hand for me to fuck her in the arse. In answer she pulled my cock between her legs and started pressing it against herself. It wasn't going to go in like that so I reached over, rubber plenty of cream on me and she pushed back against me, pressing hard and wiggling her luscious arse until with a pop I was in, cock ring still in place. What followed was a pretty rough fuck, I pushed in and out fast without much warm up, my free hand either pulling her head back hard by her hair, or pinching her nipples as hard as my slippery hand would allow. She was frigging herself desperately as I fucked her, obviously needing to cum badly. In the end I got there first by a slim margin, and she came a minute later while I continued to move inside her.
Her knees literally buckled afterward, she had to sit on the floor of the shower with the door open to get her breath back.
a good start to the day and certainly took the pressure off.
That night we got to bed and were planning to sleep. I told her about a conversation i had at a munch about Figging. She asked what that was and I described it, I then told her how it feels as the ginger warms then starts to bite. At first she was just interested and curious as to when I had tried it, but as I described the feeling her breathing began to speed up and she started to rub herself on me. It became very apparent that she liked the idea. I suggested a quick orgasm before sleep which she accepted funnily enough, only she wasn't in the mood for quick. I slid my finger in her arse and played with her, she begged me to put tiger balm on it. Great! Bend over the bed and get it, I told her, and as she bent over the edge of the bed, her head hanging down and her delectable butt in the air I continued to tease her arse and her clit. Took her ages to find the balm (can you guess why?) and she passed me back a pink large dildo at the same time. Slut!
It didn't take her long to cum, I had one hand ramming the dildo into her pussy hard, my finger coated liberally in tiger balm was simultaneously moving in and out of her arse which by now was deliciously burning hot. With my free hand I grabbed her hair hard in my fist, pulling her head back, stretching her neck, or pushing it back down over the edge of the bed. I wasn't gentle at either end, dildo arse or hair but she just pushed her hand between her legs, moaning almost non stop, then tipped over into a huge orgasm. She came while making guttural animal sounds, her hair pulled even harder and head pulled back, and as she came down the slow continuing movement of the dildo and finger brought her quite a few aftershocks.
Wednesday, 17 November 2010
Unexpected events
Sandy got back late last night, she had had a very good time. Her lover has figured out how to make her cum, of which he was very proud. Helped by the fact that she had not had sex for a week and they had been fucking a long time! She came a second time too, this time by her own hand while he was fucking her. He also came inside her, apparently he grows very big when he is close to cumming, and she had a very dreamy expression while she told me this. He even fucked her from behind standing up against a wall. I haven't done that position with her in years and I really love it. its a huge tease knowing he got to experience it and I didn't.
In fact she has admitted she isn't missing me inside her at all. While I suspect that is partly her playing up to the fantasy, its also fairly true. She doesn't seem to need to fuck often and has her new man giving her more than enough.
I am needless to say very horny, and feeling very churned up inside with submissive feelings.
On a different note she got the tickleberry newsletter, in it they have a very sexy and evil looking kalis teeth chastity device in sexy shiny metal. I thought she would consider it too extreme, but she really likes the idea and is seriously thinking of buying one for christmas. she made a comment to the effect can I believe she is thinking of buying me a chastity belt? She admitted she likes the idea of teasing me while wearing it!
Nervous? Yup.
M
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Tuesday, 16 November 2010
Very quick update
She is out.
We havent had full blown orgasmic for her sex since last tuesday, although we have done a lot of teasing. Last tuesday was the sex we had the night of her last visit to the boyfriend. Its been a busy week! Last night we fooled round, but she would not let me give her an orgasm as she was saving it for tonight. She enjoyed 'saving herself' for her boyfriend. Today I got home from work and shortly found her upstairs shaving her pussy, leaving a cute little landing strip... for him.
After dressing her up for later she demanded I put on the panties she has work all day and keep them on until she reurns, a little humiliation in the mix. No lockup, but im not allowed to cum either, of course.
Wonder what she is up to now, while I catch up on work?
M
We havent had full blown orgasmic for her sex since last tuesday, although we have done a lot of teasing. Last tuesday was the sex we had the night of her last visit to the boyfriend. Its been a busy week! Last night we fooled round, but she would not let me give her an orgasm as she was saving it for tonight. She enjoyed 'saving herself' for her boyfriend. Today I got home from work and shortly found her upstairs shaving her pussy, leaving a cute little landing strip... for him.
After dressing her up for later she demanded I put on the panties she has work all day and keep them on until she reurns, a little humiliation in the mix. No lockup, but im not allowed to cum either, of course.
Wonder what she is up to now, while I catch up on work?
M
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